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Suck White Cock, Not An Asian American Activist?

Friday, June 17th, 2005 | I'm a bitch and I know it.

I got into an interesting discussion on a Model Minority forum thread about Asian American Activists who date non-Asians. Somehow, to some people, dating a non-Asian automatically discredits you from being an activist.

They call this Talks Asian, Beds White. I first felt appalled that they threw out of the window the tireless efforts of one of the Asian American activists I knew personally in Miami, once her dating preferences were up in the air and unknown. They automatically assumed that she dated whites, and that she then, by association, had no pride in her people.

Am I the only person who sees something wrong in all of this? Sure, while I might admit that I do cringe whenever I see a white/Asian couple, I do not ever judge the Asian half of the couple’s pride in his own people and culture.

Personally, in my own dating habits, I have gone the whole gamut of colors and cultures. Growing up in multi-cultural communities, issues of race and culture were all too prevalent, and I saw that these were the things which divided. I want to believe that I am an empowered Asian American, a Queer Azn Activist. And to have myself automatically discredited by a few just because I just happen to suck white/brown/yellow cock once in a while? I find it hard to categorize people by race.

Now that I think about it, I guess that the trophy wife/husband for an Asian American activist is an Asian boyfriend/girlfriend. In a racial group where the women are more likely to date people outside of their race, I guess the men have much to be dissatisfied with. And who can blame them? There is a generation of Asian American activists who are growing up feeling resentful of what they feel is a colonization and plundering of their culture by whites, and who feel that the only way to reclaim their identity is to go back to their roots, and to surround themselves with only people who share their slanted eyes. While yes, there is empowerment in that, one still shouldn’t exclude others and automatically discredit others by looks and dating habits alone.

And speaking of identity, one must also think about the new identity one must create for oneself. Yes, I might seem white-washed, but I do have pride in my people’s culture. My identity is not 100%  white, asian, or latino. The blood in me might be 100% Chinese, but I know that my identity is inherited from many sources, and that is what makes myself unique, and an Queer Azn Activist.

In matters of the heart, one can be color-blind. It is in your everyday actions and attitudes that the activist shines through.

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