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educating straight men on queer

Friday, March 1st, 2002 | Uncategorized

educating straight men on queer relationships
After breakfast with Mike and Rick today (Thursday morning), Mike asked me a question about gay couples. He asked about the myth that in gay relationships, there has to be a female and male roles filled out. This means that there will be a dominating half, and the other half will be submissive and somewhat feminine. I poo-poo that. Yes, I do admit that there are relationships like that. but i feel that the perpetration of such roles is due to what I call heterosexual relationship pressure the truth about gay relationships is that the most equal relationship has been formed. There is no pressure on either partner to be the submissive or dominating one. Each partner will find his own role in the relationship. Personally, I believe in equal relationships. I hate roles. Mike says that this idea was inspired from that fabulous movie The birdcage with Nathan Lane and Robin Williams. Nathan lane represents the “mother” role, while hairy Robin is the “father.” While I do love the movie, it is such films that perpetuates gay stereotypes. Mike says that in a relationship, i will definitely be the “father”. Bullcrap. I am personally a possibly in-between. Sometimes I want to be dominating, and sometimes I want to be submissive. I love children. And I ever have children, I want the relationship and the childcare to be a cooperative thing between my partner and me. Because it doesn’t matter which parent is the mother or father. What matters is that both parents love their children.